Grandma Nana

My mom, whom we are calling Grandma Nana, came to visit and help take care of Tanner during March 19-23. It was great to have another grandma helping with all the chores, daycare, cooking, etc. Jeremy was out of town this week and I had the Jr. High play to co-direct, and so Tanner basically didn't see his parents for 4 days. There were two days in a row where I only saw him for an hour in the morning. Nana did SO much with him and she took a bunch of pictures to prove it! We couldn't have survived the week without her help.

Tanner LOVES helping cook. I give him the oregano seasoning because not very much comes out at a time.

 We colored Easter eggs one night while I was home. Tanner loved plopping the eggs into the die, taking them out and plopping them in again.

 The eggs of course cracked from all the plopping. So Tanner figured out he could take the shells off!

 My favorite from all of Nana's pictures. Look at that bed hair!

Oh yeah, I'm pregnant!

Sometimes I still forget that I'm pregnant because there is so much going on. But my body is reminding me more and more that I have something growing in there, especially when I try bending over. Each week, I am being forced to slow down my pace, literally every step of the way. Right at this moment I'm 34 weeks pregnant, and I feel like there is hardly any more room for the baby. 

(March 8, 30 weeks pregnant)

Health

My health is great. My midwife said yesterday, "Your pregnancy is so perfectly normal! It's amazing!" Virtually the only symptoms I've had is being very tired and having a weaker back (I threw it out in August). As long as I eat a little bit every 2 hours and drink tons of water, I've avoided nausea and heartburn really well. Just like with Tanner's pregnancy, I've never thrown up. I sleep very well in any position (I've got a lot of pillows to help), and I even convinced my midwife to let me forgo the glucose test since there's no sign of me having gestational diabetes. 

I think the only negative of having such an easy pregnancy is that I have to work even harder at putting my body first. People at work see me going strong and they forget that I'm pregnant, too. I have to be good about setting my boundaries, taking time to eat and pee and rest, because I've learned that the only person who will fight for me at work is ME. There have been times when things get extremely stressful with directing the shows (5 down, 3 more to go!), and I'm glad I have the guts to tell people to cut me more slack! 

(March 23, 32 weeks pregnant)

My Size

Everyone is shocked when I tell them how far along I am. They claim they would have guessed 2 or 3 months less than what I am. They might just be saying it to be nice. However, I do think it's taken awhile longer than anticipated for my belly to really start popping. Jeremy and I don't think I really started looking prego until the 3rd trimester, which is why we only have a few pics of me earlier in my pregnancy. 

It's nice that people think I'm not huge, but at the same time, it's a little annoying. I would like to get some credit for all this time that I've been carrying around this baby! Plus, even though I may not look as big as I "should" I feel very pregnant, and I wish people could see how pregnant I feel.

My students are hilarious. "Oh, your tummy is getting fatter!" "When is your baby going to hatch?" "Are you going to name it after me?!" Every week I still get a kid that asks "Wait, you're pregnant?" To which I say "Yeah! What did you think was happening to my belly?" "I thought you just ate a lot."

My favorite was the following conversation with my Kindergarten students:

Boy- "Whoa, Mrs. Zavoral, your belly is getting bigger!"

Me- "Thank you! I know, it's so exciting!"

Girl- "Mrs. Zavoral, it's okay. We still love you just the way you are, no matter how you look!"

(March 19, 31.5 weeks pregnant)

Hypno-birthing

Our hypno-birthing classes are wonderful, and I am learning a lot. If you haven't heard of hypno-birthing, you've gotta look into it. My midwife recommended it to me during my first birth, since natural was the route I wanted to go. We didn't take hypnobirth classes then mostly because of scheduling conflicts. But this time around I decided to make it a priority, mostly for the breathing benefits (I hyperventilated when birthing Tanner). I have a couple friends that have hypno-birthed and say they loved it. Jeremy has been really supportive, and we actually decided to try this birth without a doula, so Jeremy will be extra busy this time around- and he says he wants to be!

Anyway, hypno-birthing is a birthing method founded in the early 90's based on complete relaxation so that you can have the calmest, most natural birth possible. Your birth partner guides you through a bunch of relaxation exercises which involve deep meditating and focusing. Our midwife says that all her patients that have done hypno-birthing have quick births (less than 8 hours) with virtually no complications (usually the women doing it are very healthy), and the moms stick with it all the way through. Our hospital is also really supportive of this type of birthing. I'm working hard and preparing my best so that I don't ruin the statistics! 

(April 6, 34 weeks pregnant)

And now for a list.  

Thoughts of a Mommy Pregnant with Baby #2:

• Will he look like Tanner? What if he isn't as cute as Tanner? What if he's cuter than Tanner? Will that mean that I treat them differently?
• This pregnancy doesn't seem much different than the first. Is that wrong? All I've ever heard of is "every pregnancy is soooo different. My first was this and my second was that." Am I missing something?
• Wow, I get so tired after work. I wish I could have enough energy to hold Tanner and play with him, and roll around on the ground with him. He's gonna be neglected even more when the baby is actually here. Poor Tanner!
• It's hard to think of having another baby in our family. What will his personality be like? Will he like us or think we're totally weird? Will he fit in with us? 
• Did I eat this much when I was pregnant with Tanner?
• What if he thinks we love Tanner more? What if Tanner thinks we love the baby more? What if we actually do love one more than the other? Is that possible?
• What if he's a super tall kid and he ends up being taller than Tanner by the time he's two? Will Tanner hate this? Probably.
• I think Tanner moved more. Well, no I think this baby moves more. To be honest, it's really the same. This baby even stays primarily in the same position as Tanner did. His feet are always in the same spot that Tanner had them!
• I felt a significant personality from Tanner when I was pregnant with him. But I don't feel a strong sense of anything from this baby. Maybe because I've got a toddler on the loose keeping me distracted? Well, I actually do feel something. I think that this baby will bring us a lot of love and that he will have a great need for love.
• Maybe he'll look like Jeremy. That would be cool, but then the boys wouldn't look like siblings. 
• What if they made a mistake and he's actually a girl? Then that would change a lot of dynamics between her and Tanner. Is it gonna be harder on them that they are both boys because they'll be competing all the time? Or will it be easier because they can just play rough all the time.
• What if he's not as smart as Tanner, or maybe he'll be smarter? How do I help bring out both of my child's strengths without hurting the other one if he isn't as strong in that area?
• Tanner is still such a baby. I mean look at him, he's only 21 months old. How do people have kids 18 months and 12 months apart? That sounds so exhausting now that I'm doing this.
• Is anybody even reading this?

March 13

Gramz and the Zoo

Tanner's Grandma Zavoral, whom we are calling Gramz, came to help take care of us from March 5-9. She watched Tanner 3 working days in a row and did all kinds of house work for us. It was wonderful to have her with us!

 Tanner and Gramz did lots of playing, including coloring, finger paints, chalks, stories, cars, walks, and more coloring. They did lots of art projects like making paper boots for Tanner's boy doll and a cheerio necklace for me! 

 One night, we took Gramz to Mama D's Italian restaurant in Newport Beach. Then we tried the famous frozen bananas on Balboa Island. We've never eaten them before and figured we outta since we've lived here for 5 years now (!). 

---Imagine a picture here of us eating the frozen bananas.---

I'm not really sure how anyone ever got the idea to freeze a banana and then eat it. I didn't like the frozen sound that mushes and screeches when you bite into it, but I liked it once it was more melted. The best part was the chocolate topping. Tanner thought it was a yucky treat. 

On Saturday, we all went to the local Santa Ana Zoo. 

 The zoo is just a tiny place, featuring lots of different monkeys. Even though it was small, it far exceeded our expectations. The place was beautiful with lots of tropic plants and nice looking cages. It was the perfect place to bring a toddler to.                   

Tanner LOVED the animals. "Anmul, anmul!" and "Wow!" and just lots of staring. He would sit and watch one area of animals for about 5 minutes. When we said "Okay, time to go see the next animal!" he would get really upset. "Noooo, no anmul!" He wanted to keep watching whatever we were still looking at. He'd wine and push and kick until we would get to the next cage. Then "ohhh!" and the cycle would repeat. 

Watching the parrots.

This time he didn't mind walking to the next place because he had a granola bar in his hand and Dada in the other.

There was a park there, too. Tanner was sooo excited. There were lots of kids there, but he went running up to the jungle gym, climbed up to the tip-top and went down the slide several times without being intimidated by the bigger kids or the big playground. I guess he would be good at that by now since he goes to the park everyday with his babysitter. It's weird how he learns to do things that I'm not really aware of. Alas, that's just part of being a working mom. 

Ever since Gramz came, Tanner has been obsessed with drawing and coloring. "Cahcah, Cahcah!" for "crayon!" (it almost sounds exactly like his word for cracker, but it does have a subtle difference) and "Peh! Peh!" for pen. He's getting really good now and gets very focused on trying to hold the writing utensil with just his pointer and thumb.

Photo Journal from late Feb

Hangin' Out with Tanner after work around Feb 19. 

Tanner is almost 20 months old at this time!

Tanner loves to get into this automen and into our hampers.

 Dancing to Pandora music. He squats his legs and takes large steps around the room, sideways, front and backwards. It's so funny. He also bobs his head back and forth. Sometimes waves his arms, spins, and jumps.

He didn't like it when I put on classical music. "No, no. New song!" I tried several classical pieces. "Nooo. New song!" Then I put on the station with kids rock and roll. He was much happier and danced all over the place. I figured that meant we needed to listen to more classical pieces. So I make sure that we do that on our morning drive to the babysitter's house.

Tanner eating. I love watching him eat! He makes the cutest expressions. He has become an independent eater in the last month or so. He gets up into his high chair all by himself. As of this week, he now consistently eats all his meals at the table instead of with his tray. We sometimes still give him a bib, depending on what he's eating. He uses forks and spoons and eats his cereal without spilling. He keeps his food on his plate or in his bowl while he eats and if something falls off the plate or fork, he puts it back on! 

But, if he gets super frustrated, then we have some issues. "Frustrated" can mean he has been trying to get the food on his fork for a long time and it isn't working. Or it can mean he didn't want that food, or he thinks it's too hot, or he thinks he is done. If he gets "frustrated," then he will fling his plate across the room or dump all the food onto the table and spread it all over the place, followed by a tantrum.  When this happens, I try to give as little attention to him as I can, just quietly pick it all up. There's no point in feeding the fire. Usually, I realize that if I had just listened to him when he was in his early stage of frustration, I could have prevented the outburst.

He likes all types of food, there really isn't anything he doesn't eat. Some of Tanner's favorite foods are noodles with marinara sauce, pancakes, oatmeal and cereal, scrambled eggs, beans, chicken, rice, guacamole, hummus, string cheese, yogurt, applesauce, bananas, berries on his cereal, fresh cooked carrots, fresh fruit smoothies, grapes, pineapples, ANY of the fruit or vegetable squeezies, and cookies. He also eats tomatoes, cooked peppers and onions and squash, granola bars, sliced ham, fresh cooked fish (hates the frozen fish sticks), toast, any type of cracker, and ice cream. He can't digest raisins or nuts very well, but still eats them when I let him. 

Tanner doesn't chew a whole lot when he eats. He actually likes to take really big bites, chew a little and then swallow in gulps. Yikes! To get more veggies in him, I blend steamed or cooked green veggies in the blender and then add the mix to pancake batter, yogurt, hummus, and spaghetti sauces. It should also be noted that Tanner snacks a lot. He likes to eat about every 1.5-2 hours. Not a surprise, since that's how I roll, too!

On March 2, we decided we needed to make a trip to the temple. The Newport Beach Temple is only 15 minutes from our house, so we need to take better advantage of that! Our biggest excuse for not going there on a regular basis is because it's so hard to spend another day away from Tanner. I know that sounds silly to some people, but when you hardly see your son or your husband during the week days, your few week nights together (2 or 3 if we're lucky) and your week-ends become extremely precious time.

So to help with that, we came up with a solution. We would both go to the temple on a Saturday, but so that Tanner doesn't have to be ditched again, and so that neither of us have to go alone (which I have a very hard time with), we will all get dressed up together, go to the temple together and split up the time. Jeremy & Tanner dropped me off for my turn, and they stayed in the temple parking lot while Tanner slept in the car. Then, we switched. While Jeremy was in the temple, I took Tanner on a calm walk around Carona Del Mar. Then, we walked around the temple grounds and talked about the gospel until Jeremy was done. It turned out to be a perfect family event!

 On our walk around Carona Del Mar.

It was such a beautiful day!

Brace Face & Four Eyes

This is Jeremy. My sister calls me Brace Face now because I had to get braces in January. I've actually been wearing invisiline for about 3 years now. I originally got invisiline because I have this weird bite problem where my bottom teeth are digging into my top front teeth and have created these notches that are almost exposing the nerves. So my choice was to either get my teeth aligned correctly to keep the problem from getting worse, or I end up with lots more problems down the line. So I got invisiline because it was only supposed to be 6 months to a year. My orthodontist kept saying things were going right along as they should, but I got skeptical after the 2nd year. Then, they stopped making appointments with me. 

(Jeremy has braces in this picture)

After 3 months of not hearing from my ortho and not being able to call their office, I decided to look online to see if anyone else was having the same problem. Turns out the guy is a crook! A complete fraud. He took his Dad's name, who was a real orthodontist, and pretended to be one himself. All this time he duped me into thinking I was actually wearing Invisiline. Instead, he was making the molds himself. No wonder they hurt so much.

So I joined a class action lawsuit against him. I probably won't get any money from that since the guy has gone bankrupt and lost his house and everything. But it turns out that since I paid in full with my credit card, and I can prove that he didn't complete the job, our Discover account paid us back for everything we paid the fake ortho, so that's nice. 

Now I have a real orthodontist. He says that if I want to have my teeth move correctly, it's best to do it with real braces. So I got them on the next week. The first month was terrible because they put these cement risers on my back teeth so that I couldn't bite down all the way. Only two little places in the back of my mouth would actually touch when I tried chewing. This meant that I went about 4 weeks only eating soup, smoothies, yogurt, mashed potatoes and old people food like meatloaf. 

Luckily, I can bite down better now and eat more normal foods. It's still really annoying though because I constantly bite my lips. And food gets stuck in them all the time. And Tanner thinks it's really cool to smack me in the face so that the inside of my cheeks get smashed into my braces. I can't wait until he's 14 and has braces because then I can get some proper revenge.

Now it's SarahLynn writing. Jeremy is brace face, and I'm four eyes. I've actually had glasses and contacts since I was 18. But in Feb 2012, I lost my glasses and couldn't find them anywhere. I kept thinking they would show up, but no luck. I am near sighted, so it only becomes an inconvenience to not have glasses when I'm driving, going to the movies or looking at the view. So I let time go by without replacing them (and I don't wear contacts because they irritate my eyes).

In the summer, I had time to get new glasses, but it turned out I needed a new prescription. Of course, that took a few more months to do. Not because of the Dr. It was because of life just making it very difficult to actually go to an appointment. I think by August I had one, so in November we chose some glasses from Walmart. But then Jeremy realized that if we waited until January, our insurance would cover most of the costs. So in the end, I went an ENTIRE year without seeing anything far away.

The first day that I wore my new glasses, I was shocked at how much I was missing out on. There were at least four signs on my way to work that I literally noticed for the first time. I could see the shapes of the clouds in the sky. I could see the leaves individually on trees. I didn't have to squint to read the clock in my classroom. I could see the facial features on my students that sat in the back row. It was amazing! I'm so grateful for my glasses and I never want to go that long without seeing again.